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Cindy Walbridge (USA)

Thankful - Part 4 - Heartfelt Lesson


Sai Baba, an Indian spiritual guru once said that "[s]elfless service alone gives the needed strength and courage to awaken the sleeping humanity in one's heart."


Being of service to others taught me many lessons. One, in particular, that was particularly powerful was the awareness and understanding that my ego voice wants to assert itself into the experience. How many times had I done something for someone or something based on a need to satisfy myself? If I just donate this money, I will feel better. If I just drop a back of clothes at the door of the domestic violence shelter, I will have done something and feel quietly smug about it. After all, I want to be humble about it, or at least have my friends think I am!


While both of those are acceptable ways to contribute, it is the attitude in which I approached the opportunity to be of service that did not feel right. I know I felt conflicted and I struggled to put away those 'bad' feelings until I explored my real intent. The power of reflection and connection to a spiritual side of myself helped me realize that there were deep-seated fears that motivated my wanting to be of service or at least some of it. I also understood that I had a great capacity to be loving and compassionate and a desire to share with those that were less fortunate. That is who I am, who I desire to be and desire to realize.


Once I opened my mind and dropped all pretense it was not hard to get to a place where I knew that I am no different than you and you are no different than me. We are all one, on this human journey together. We all express ourselves differently and may live in very different conditions, but we are all human and live on the same earth. Help those who could use it, do it without fanfare, trust your heart and follow it.

Recently, a friend of mine donated two (2) bikes for the bike club. She left them on my front porch, a mountain bike, and an electric bike. I contacted the school and they said they had no room to store them and would have to forego the opportunity. I thought, now what do I do? I listened to my heart and the quiet inspiration I received said, just let them stay there and the need will come. Within the week the man painting my house asked if they were available. He is homeless and could only travel by walking.

He would be starting a new full-time job building tiny houses for others in need, and a bicycle would help him travel around easier. He now has an electric bike to get to work and one day he may be able to obtain one of the tiny houses he will be building. I am always amazed when I allow myself to see how beautiful this world and my life is and I am deeply thankful.


This exquisite poem speaks to me and it is foundational to me in my life of service.


Small Kindnesses


I’ve been thinking about the way, when you walk

down a crowded aisle, people pull in their legs

to let you by. Or how strangers still say “bless you”

when someone sneezes, a leftover

from the Bubonic plague. “Don’t die,” we are saying.

And sometimes, when you spill lemons

from your grocery bag, someone else will help you

pick them up. Mostly, we don’t want to harm each other.

We want to be handed our cup of coffee hot,

and to say thank you to the person handing it. To smile

at them and for them to smile back. For the waitress

to call us honey when she sets down the bowl of clam chowder,

and for the driver in the red pick-up truck to let us pass.

We have so little of each other, now. So far

from tribe and fire. Only these brief moments of exchange.

What if they are the true dwelling of the holy, these

fleeting temples we make together when we say, “Here,

have my seat,” “Go ahead—you first,” “I like your hat.”


"Small Kindnesses" by Danusha Laméris from HEALING THE DIVIDE: POEMS OF KINDNESS AND CONNECTION, copyright © 2019 Green Writers Press.

have my seat,” “Go ahead – you first, “I like your hat”



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